Nonwabe Emtshatweni

Nonwabe Emtshatweni - Happy marriage

Ukuze umtshato uhlale uhleli, isibini esitshatileyo simele sibe nembono efanelekileyo ngokuzibophelela. Kwiincwadi nakwimifanekiso eshukumayo, umtshato udla ngokuba nesiphelo esihle esinqwenelwayo ngabantu. Kodwa, kubomi bokwenene, umtshato awusosiphelo; usisiqalo—isiqalo sento uYehova ayiyilele ukuba ihlale ihleli. (Genesis 2:24) Okulusizi kukuba, abantu abaninzi kwihlabathi lanamhlanje ababoni njalo. Kwezinye iindawo, abantu bachaza umtshato njengokuzibophelela ngeqhina. Basenokuba abayiqondi kakuhle indlela lo mzekeliso oyichaza ngayo imbono yabantu abaninzi ngomtshato. Njani? Ngoxa iqhina elibotshwe kakuhle lifanele liyiqinise into ixesha elide kangangoko kufuneka, enye into ngeqhina kukuba linokuqhinwa lula lize likhululwe lula.

Abaninzi namhlanje bawujonga umtshato njengento yexeshana. Bayawungxamela kuba becinga ukuba uza kwanelisa iimfuno zabo, kodwa ke bekwalindele nokuwubaleka xa kuvela iingxaki. Noko ke, khumbula ukuba umzekeliso osetyenziswa yiBhayibhile wona uthi umtshato ufana nentambo. Iintambo ezisetyenziswa kwiinqanawa zenziwa ngohlobo lokuba zihlale zihleli, zingaze zicazululeke, kwanaxa kukho uqhwithela olunamandla. Ngendlela efanayo, umtshato wenzelwe ukuba uhlale uhleli. Khumbula amazwi kaYesu athi: “Oko uThixo akubophelele ngedyokhwe ndawonye makungahlukaniswa mntu.” (Mateyu 19:6) Ukuba uyatshata, ufanele ube nembono efanayo ngomtshato. Ngaba loo nto iwenza ube luxanduva umtshato? Nakanye.